Waiting an Learning

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I have been reading Parenting the Hurt Child by Gregory Keck and Regina Kupecky. As Dave mentioned in an earlier blog, we have learned that parenting an adopted (hurt) child will not be the same as parenting biological children. There will be hurts that will take a great deal of patience and time to heal. Some of the hurts we may not even know about for some time. The healing for our children will be a process that could take years. With God's grace and help we will love them through the good and difficult times. With prayer we will overcome the pain and challenges that we will all face. I am thankful for the wisdom of these authors and the experiences that have been shared through their books. I am so glad to have read this book ahead of time, so that I can pray more specifically for the needs of our children. It is good to know what kinds of things to expect. I look so forward to bringing them home and beginning the loving process.

I am currently making them afghans that I hope to give to them when we are in Ukraine. It is my hope that when they wrap up in them they will feel the warmth of my love for them as well as the physical warmth they will provide. The process of making these for them is helping me to get through the waiting as well.

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