Battles Continue
We have been sending Samuel and Anya to a therapist for about 6 months now. Dr. Kelly does play therapy, creating a safe zone for the kids to express their inner frustrations. Nellie, Zach, myself and Matthias are ready for some play therapy. I remember something my friend Jeff told me about Misha, a boy he adopted from Russia. He said 5 years after the adoption, the boy still lies, and blatantly.
The funny thing is that there are days when you really believe you are making progress. Then reality hits, and you see what was thought of as progress, was merely a calculation, a behavior displayed to yield a desired result. This stands in stark contrast to any child we have raised previoulsy. Our biological children at home, are really sick of these manipulative behaviors. We are sick of them. Talk about draining.
But God has been our miracle worker over and over. He is the one making progress, and He is not taking us out of this fire. When we see these two children, and the condition they are still in, nearly a year after the adoption, we see that we clearly have zero answers. If anything gets done, and people ever try to say to us, "well done", we'll stop them, and say, "don't you dare give us the credit". God did this.
This puts us in a place, over and over, of being on our knees. Proverbs 2:4 says that if you search for wisdom as you do for silver and buried treasure, then you will understand the fear of the Lord, and will find the knowledge of God. You'll find wisdom. Have you ever considered what it takes to get silver? Locating the silver is one thing. Then getting the equipment and provisions together to go and dilligently work to extract this free money from the earth, that is hard, hard work. I get wisdom delivered on a platter each Sunday in Church...do I use it?
To get wisdom in this, we have to seek God continually, and it is hard work. Just like raising an Adopted Child.
The funny thing is that there are days when you really believe you are making progress. Then reality hits, and you see what was thought of as progress, was merely a calculation, a behavior displayed to yield a desired result. This stands in stark contrast to any child we have raised previoulsy. Our biological children at home, are really sick of these manipulative behaviors. We are sick of them. Talk about draining.
But God has been our miracle worker over and over. He is the one making progress, and He is not taking us out of this fire. When we see these two children, and the condition they are still in, nearly a year after the adoption, we see that we clearly have zero answers. If anything gets done, and people ever try to say to us, "well done", we'll stop them, and say, "don't you dare give us the credit". God did this.
This puts us in a place, over and over, of being on our knees. Proverbs 2:4 says that if you search for wisdom as you do for silver and buried treasure, then you will understand the fear of the Lord, and will find the knowledge of God. You'll find wisdom. Have you ever considered what it takes to get silver? Locating the silver is one thing. Then getting the equipment and provisions together to go and dilligently work to extract this free money from the earth, that is hard, hard work. I get wisdom delivered on a platter each Sunday in Church...do I use it?
To get wisdom in this, we have to seek God continually, and it is hard work. Just like raising an Adopted Child.
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