Another Tough Week
I just read the final chapter in the Haak blog, and it spurred me to write an update. Yesterday was the ECAS picnic, but we could not attend. We had some trouble with Anya in the past week that was pretty challenging. We've had to call in additional resources in addition to the therapist she sees once each week. Earlier in the summer, when school ended, we anticipated trouble, so at the advice of our therapist, we enrolled Anya in the summer YMCA program, which is essentially daycare with activities, that gets her out of the house four days a week. So we have a home daycare, and one of our kids goes to another daycare. Odd but necessary.
Her therapist is telling us that home is so comfortable, and so safe, that she is able to confront the ugly reality of her pre-adoption existence, and it comes out in defiance, and undermining behavior. It gets pretty exhausting, mentally, as we spend a lot of time in prayer about this.
Well, in the past week, we had a lot of family time at the farm in Wisconsin, and we say a gradual change as the week bore on that Anya was sliding into a dark zone. Samuel, in contrast, has improved steadily, though he still has fits of anger that require Dad to come home sometimes to get him under control. Still, his progress is good to the point where his therapist is saying she can see light at the end of the tunnel for him. Therapy will continue, though, to make sure he is going to be okay.
School begins again in the fall, and it is in school where Anya has made strides. We hope it will give her a place to escape the comfort of home, and get her back to a daily schedule, that will offer respite from the negative vibes she deals with from her past. Yes, this is tough, and it reminds me of something the Lord told me more than a year ago....these children are your mission field.
Her therapist is telling us that home is so comfortable, and so safe, that she is able to confront the ugly reality of her pre-adoption existence, and it comes out in defiance, and undermining behavior. It gets pretty exhausting, mentally, as we spend a lot of time in prayer about this.
Well, in the past week, we had a lot of family time at the farm in Wisconsin, and we say a gradual change as the week bore on that Anya was sliding into a dark zone. Samuel, in contrast, has improved steadily, though he still has fits of anger that require Dad to come home sometimes to get him under control. Still, his progress is good to the point where his therapist is saying she can see light at the end of the tunnel for him. Therapy will continue, though, to make sure he is going to be okay.
School begins again in the fall, and it is in school where Anya has made strides. We hope it will give her a place to escape the comfort of home, and get her back to a daily schedule, that will offer respite from the negative vibes she deals with from her past. Yes, this is tough, and it reminds me of something the Lord told me more than a year ago....these children are your mission field.
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